Dining on the deceased's beloved meal
Over time, I've realised how much my research affects the people around, especially my own children, in ways I never expected.
Early thoughts on mortality
The topic of death, in particular, has sparked their imagination, and while I am unsure if this is good or bad, it offers rare insights into a child's mind. Even at 5.30 in the morning! The video is something I will keep to myself, but the text? That I can happily share:
Mama?
-Yes.
When it’s someone’s birthday, but he has passed away, you can light candles to remember him. You can also eat the favourite food of the person who died, the one you loved so much. That way, you can remember a little of what he liked to eat.
-I see. And? What would you eat?
What do you really like to eat, mama?
-A lot of things. Hmmm...
Well, definitely not andijvie stampot [Dutch endive mash]. That would be something I'd eat when [name]
has passed.
What would you eat?
When I am dead?
-No, then you can't eat anymore [laughs]
When you are dead. You really like lentils, don't you?
-Yes, I like them a lot.
Yeah, I might eat that then.
-I see.
[Waving to the camera] Toedeloetjes! [kids' funny greeting]